Are You Fluent in Body Language?
Maybe your fluent in several languages but are you fluent in arguably the most important – that of body language!
“To acquire knowledge, one must study; but to acquire wisdom, one must observe.” Marilyn Vos Savant
Your face is probably the first physical characteristic people notice about you. There are “eye people,” “nose people” and “mouth people.” These purists not only notice your face, they are drawn to or deterred by one of your facial features. I. personally, am drawn to an individual’s eyes.
The Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory (MBPI) says of INTJs (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging): they do not show the depth of their emotions-except in their eyes. This may be an example of the eyes being the windows to the soul. INTJs are 1% of the population.
Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on whether or not you are an INTJ), my life is littered with them. Consequently, I have become very familiar with their profiles and emotions. I have yet to see discernible depth of emotion in their eyes. Nonetheless, we do try to read the faces of the people with whom we have contact. When you meet someone, what do you notice first? Perhaps his or her gender makes a difference.
Though the face is normally the first part of the body we observe, the entire body “speaks”. Body language is a substantial part of our communication-some experts say as much as 65 to 80%. If someone’s body communicates one emotion and words articulate something else, I am more likely to trust body language. For example, if someone says, “I love you,” we should be able to discern some genuine emotion, or the words sound hallow and unconvincing. Conceivably, they were spoken from habit. deception or kindness.
Behavioral studies indicate that individuals perceive a distance that is appropriate for different types of messages; they establish a comfortable distance for personal interaction and non-verbally define this as their personal space. Personal distance is just as much a part of nonverbal communication as a smile or a snarl. If you are distrustful (e.g., paranoid), your space will probably be larger. If you perceive danger (or dislike), even if you are not consciously aware of your perception, you will probably increase the space between you and the other person.
Take the test to discover how good you are at reading body language.
Can You Interpret Someone’s Body Language?
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